God is concerned with the heart (read part 1 here), and in following His design and eye-line, I believe it's inside-out love that's built to last. Looks fade. Reputations and statuses change. But there is a richness, consistency, and depth known only in loving someone for their heart or for their mind. Honestly, there's kind of no coming back from a love like that.
Have you seen Jane Eyre (2011) - or even better, read it? I don't think I'll ever get over this story.
Jane is described as small-framed and plain. Abused and neglected as a child, her experiences as an emerging young-adult {and the heart of the story} look at what it means to find worth and your 'place' in the world. It's timeless, universal stuff.
The 2011 film version is SO beautiful and understated - with dream-like imagery, well-crafted, deliberate shots, and excellent directing/acting. Bronte's powerful, meaningful words come to life with fresh vision and an art style that effortlessly blends beauty with love, a bit of mystery, and muted creepiness.
Watch this - crank up the quality and volume, and pay careful attention to the dialogue. This scene captures perfectly what it means to love someone for their heart/mind. (*a little backstory - Jane fears she has to leave her friend and employer Mr. Rochester, as she believes he has become engaged, making her position in his home no longer appropriate. Watch the whole movie sometime if you can - it's one of my favorites!)
Cultivate in yourself (and go for in others, whether romantically or in friendship) the beauty of someone's 'insides'. If you are young or looking to get married someday, pursue someone who stirs something within you - someone who is your 'equal and your likeness', but most importantly someone who is already running full-speed in their race towards Him (Hebrews 12), someone who will grab your hand, and pull you ever-closer, not just to their side, but into His arms.